A message from Patricia’s family

With a heavy heart we share the news of the passing of Patricia Bourne on March 2, 2024, following a sudden illness. Surrounded by her loved ones, Patricia left us too soon but leaves a legacy of profound impact on those she helped.

Patricia was a beacon of hope and support for countless individuals and couples. Her dedication to fostering stronger, healthier relationships was well known, and her passion for her work was evident in every life she touched.

In memory of Patricia and her invaluable work, this website will serve as a memorial and a space for all who knew her to share their memories. If she touched your life in some way, we invite you to leave a comment.

We are moved by the outpouring of love and support during this difficult time and thank you for helping us honour Patricia’s memory.

Please leave your comment in honour of Patricia below

    Your comments

    “Patricia was our therapist as we navigated getting pregnant and having our first child. Her warmth, intelligence, sense of humour and incredible insights helped us so much and we were lucky enough to introduce her to our daughter at only 4 weeks old in our last session with her. She was overjoyed to get to meet her newest client! We will keep so much of what we learnt with Patricia in our hearts and minds as we continue in our married journey and she will be remembered with so much fondness and greatly missed. Our thoughts are with her family at this sad time.”

    Mel, Oli & Albie

    “I have known Patricia for over 17 years, firstly as my student on the Foundation degree integrative counselling then as a colleague in Relate NI working alongside me in The Centre of Wellbeing.  Our friendship grew over the years as did our professional relationship. Patricia was one of the kindest, beautiful, intelligent, funny, witty, respectful friends that I have had the privilege of sharing my journey with. I will miss you beyond words Patricia ❤️ Rest in Peace my friend.”

    Margaret Chapman

    “Patricia was so young with so much more to give, and lives on through the pieces of herself she shared with others as you so eloquently said. I count myself privileged I met her and enjoyed many conversations with her, I so admired her gentle presence. Take care, and thank you again for sharing her.”

    V Y

    “My sincere condolences on the sudden sad passing of our dearest Patricia. A truly beautiful soul who will be greatly missed by everyone who was privileged to have met her and for us who shared part of our life’s journey with her. Patricia will never be forgotten, she will always remain in a special part of my heart. 

    Rest in peace, my dear one. 

    Marie McK

    “We were shocked and saddened to learn of the sad news of Patricia’s  passing. We send our condolences and best wishes to her family and friends at this difficult time. She has been taken far too soon.

    We had just begun our therapeutic journey with Patricia. Her sensitive and warm approach and manner gave us confidence that we had found the best person to help us with our problems.”

    S + D

    “We have been clients of Patricia for couples counselling. I can’t put into words how much she has helped us. Her care, compassion but also straight talking was exactly what we needed. She is also fun when needed and had a really wonderful giggle!  She has expressed so much kindness and helped us through the worst of a really difficult stressful situation. 

    This has not only made a significant impact on the two of us, and I hope it will be a long lasting one, but also on our young children who thanks to Patricia’s help now are likely to grow up with two parents who role model love and care instead of be separated.

    I am sure you must have other things on your mind but I thought I’d share her impact on us in case you’d value it. We are incredibly grateful that Patricia supported us. She was an incredible person and an extremely skilled and qualified couples counsellor.

    We wish you and your family all the strength you need during this difficult time. Our thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.”

    D & V

    “I am so terribly sorry for your loss and am very sad that she was taken too soon. Patricia was so lovely and I think will have touched the hearts and lives many she met and worked with.”

    M R

    “Our thoughts go out to Patricia’s husband and family. Patricia will be missed by us as a couple for the challenges we brought to her and no matter what she always smiled and the eyes the way she looked at you, she said we will work together and get through this, she was very passionate about helping people, Patricia was a star from above guiding us on our journey,  we will miss Patricia and her smile. God bless her and look after her.”

    Kathleen  B

    “Dear Patricia, You will be missed by so many, especially us. Your lovely warm smile when we came to see you always kind and giving of yourself a beautiful person indeed.

    The warm caring and understanding you had for us as a couple, always there when we needed you and your  help on our journey,  we will miss the friendly smile and the confidence and guidance you gave us. We are so sorry to see such a lovely lady leave us.”

    M & DS Stuart

    “We are so very sorry to hear about Patricia. Patricia was a lovely person,  always pleasant & friendly & a pleasure to see come through our doors. 

    We hope that your memories  of Patricia and happier times  help you through the coming months, our sincere condolences.”

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